Real Wedding, Real Questions #1

Do the parents of the bride buy a present for the bride & groom? (From MOB May, 2010)

The etiquette of weddings is changing and so are the expectations of the bride’s parents. In some cases, it may be appropriate for the bride’s parents to give a wedding gift. In others, it’s not necessary, but it’s always appreciated.

* If the bride’s parents are paying for the wedding, common etiquette says that giving a wedding present isn’t necessary.

* The bride’s parents often give a wedding present to the newlyweds. It doesn’t have to be big, as a small, thoughtful gift is acceptable.

In many cultures it is something personal and traditional.  Here are some notes from Emily Post

Symbolic:  I’ve heard of the wine for joy, salt for tears, and bread for fruitfulness basket

Sentimental:  Giving “a piece of the home”, such as an antique clock or favorite rocking chair

Heirloom:  Grandmother’s locket

Religious:  Family Bible for birth records, marriages & deaths

* If the bride’s parents are not paying for the wedding or contributing financially to it, they should give a present to the newlyweds as a sign of their approval and support.

* In terms of spending, the Emily Post Institute says that staying within your budget is expected.

Feel free to submit your own questions…if you need an answer, perhaps another bride does too.  We’d be happy to help!  Happy Wedding Planning!

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  Jean Picard
  February 9, 2010 at 10:53 am

  Hi Kendra-
  Lora sent me a link to her blog about the last Association of Bridal Consultants (ABC) Sacramento local networking group quarterly meeting you two put on, which led me to check out your blog (which looks fabulous!). You and Lora are doing a terrific job! If I don’t see you sooner, I’ll see you this fall in Phoenix at the Association of Bridal Consultants (www.BridalAssn.com) international annual conference. It’s shaping up to be the best yet!
  –Jean Picard, ABC California State Coordinator